The Gantt Report
By Lucius Gantt
How can you tell when your relationship is ending? Well, there’s a variety of ways.
No matter how hard they try, good women and men who are honest, faithful, and respectful will never be happy with a dishonest, disloyal, and disrespectful partner.
It’s easy for young people to jump on and off relationship boats but mature men and women are reluctant to doing the “jump around”. It’s dangerous in the streets.
At a certain time in life, senior men and women prefer not to waste time with partners who are playing them.
When a person claims sex is the main thing in a relationship it usually means sex is the only thing that person can, or will, bring to the table.
Common sense should tell partners that you can’t pay bills with sex, you can’t save sex for a rainy day, and ordinary sex can’t guarantee relationship longevity.
Women and men in good relationships give the union everything they can give.
When relations go from good to bad, the good partner is the last one to know. The home girls or the homies know; the coworkers know, the family knows, and the neighbors know that the relationship will soon be over.
You need to recognize “them changes”. The sex changes first. When your partner decides they desire sex with other people, sex with you becomes more limited and less vigorous.
Tummy tucks, liposuction, body sculpting, and temporary exercising begin to occur. If your partner doesn’t eat right and doesn’t exercise regularly, it usually suggests something is going on.
Men find activities that will take all day like, longer work hours, golf, fishing, studio time, etc., when they don’t enjoy being in a relationship. A woman’s hair, nail, and lash appointments that take all day may also be a sign that a relationship is going bad.
A major sign of a deteriorating relationship is false accusations. When a faithful partner is told, “you’re cheating”, it sometimes means you’re being accused of something your partner is interested in doing.
Good women and men will never make a comment like that unless they have absolute evidence.
Going through your partner’s phone and seeing very old pictures of friends, family members, business clients, and the like, are not examples of infidelity.
If you want a good man or woman, you need to be able to recognize a good man or woman. You can’t tell a good person by the car they are in, by the clothes they wear, by the job they claim to have, or by the “pimp talk” that some men and women love to hear. “You look good. Give me some.” Is not a reliable reason to think a man or woman who says that is your soulmate.
Always look deep, before you leap. Fine women and men are fine on the inside. Look for signs of a good mind, a good heart and a good soul!
History is the best teacher. No woman or man is perfect. The best you may be able to hope for is finding a partner that is more perfect than imperfect, more loyal than disloyal, and more honest than dishonest!
When you’re convinced you have a runaway dog or a runaway cat, who thinks it’s great to enjoy multiple “hitters”, my advice is for you to tell them to keep running and never run back!
When the person you desire no longer desires you, it may upset you. Keep it moving.
Relationship success is always the best revenge! Take your time finding the man or woman who loves YOU, wants YOU, and can’t do without YOU!