When did fatherhood become a job with an exit clause? What happened to the James Evans Sr.’s, Cliff Huxtables and D.L. Hughleys? These were man that valued and understood the importance of fatherhood. Far too often when a relationship goes sour, men check out of their parental duties as quickly as they abdicate their relational ones. While a woman and her children are frequently referred to as a package deal, should this concept apply to the father of her children as well? I think not! The end of a romantic relationship should never signify the end of a parenting one. Children are the beautiful results of our adult decisions. They don’t ask to be born but they require to be cared for. As we celebrate Father’s Day this weekend, let’s tip our hats to all the men that wake up everyday striving to provide a better life for their children. The men willing to do any and everything possible to make sure their children are fed, clothed and sheltered. The men who don’t make excuses but create opportiunites. Remember when James Evans Sr. on the TV show Good Times, picked up his pool stick in a last ditch effort to put food on the table. Despite his wife’s protest, James did what he knew he had to do! This is the type of fatherhood that we need today. Make no mistake about it, the community as a whole suffers when fatherhood fails. The evidence is all around us. So let’s all take a moment to reflect on the words of the immortal Tupac Shakur “If we don’t we’ll have a race of babies that will hate the ladies that make the babies.” (Keep Ya Head Up 1993)
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